Allen Counseling Clinic - Love Language Assessment

Allen Counseling Clinic

Love Language Assessment

This assessment will help you identify your primary and secondary love languages. For each statement, select the option that best resonates with you.


A) My partner gives me a heartfelt hug.
B) My partner brings me a thoughtful gift for no special reason.

C) My partner makes time to spend quality time with me, just us.
D) My partner helps me with a task or chore I need to complete.

E) My partner tells me they appreciate me and the things I do.
A) My partner holds my hand in public.

B) My partner surprises me with something I mentioned I wanted.
C) My partner and I spend time together doing something we both enjoy.

D) My partner offers to help me with something stressful.
E) My partner compliments me on something I worked hard on.

C) My partner plans a date or special outing for us.
A) My partner gives me a back rub after a long day.

B) My partner gives me a thoughtful gift on my birthday.
D) My partner takes care of a household chore without being asked.

E) My partner tells me they’re proud of me.
C) My partner spends uninterrupted time with me.

A) My partner kisses me passionately.
B) My partner brings me flowers, just because.

D) My partner runs an errand for me when I’m busy.
E) My partner leaves me a sweet, encouraging note.

A) My partner holds me close for no reason.
C) My partner sits down and listens attentively while I talk.

E) My partner says how much they love me.
D) My partner fills up my car with gas or does something helpful.

B) My partner gives me a gift card for something I love.
C) My partner surprises me with a date night.

A) My partner rests their head on my shoulder.
E) My partner tells me how much they admire me.

D) My partner does something for me that I usually handle myself.
C) My partner spends the entire day doing something fun with me.

A) My partner unexpectedly hugs me or touches me.
E) My partner sends me a sweet text or leaves a loving voicemail.

D) My partner takes over a task that I was dreading.
C) My partner arranges a special evening just for the two of us.

B) My partner surprises me with a small, thoughtful gift.
A) My partner cuddles up with me on the couch.

E) My partner tells me how lucky they feel to be with me.
C) My partner suggests we take a weekend trip together.

D) My partner takes the time to fix something for me.
B) My partner gives me a thoughtful gift that reflects something important to me.

C) My partner gives me their full attention, even when they’re busy.
E) My partner expresses appreciation for the things I do.

A) My partner reaches for my hand in public.
D) My partner helps me with a difficult project or chore.

B) My partner surprises me with my favorite treat.
C) My partner makes an effort to spend quality time with me, even on a busy day.

D) My partner does something thoughtful to make my day easier.
E) My partner tells me how much they appreciate having me in their life.

A) My partner gives me a lingering hug.
B) My partner buys me something I’ve been wanting for a while.

The 5 Love Languages

According to author Gary Chapman, there are five love languages. Our "love language" describes how we receive love from others.

They are:1. Words of Affirmation
- Saying supportive things to your partner2. Acts of Service
- Doing helpful things for your partner3. Receiving Gifts
- Giving your partner gifts that tell them you were thinking about them4. Quality Time
- Spending meaningful time with your partner5. Physical Touch
- Being close to and caressed by your partnerEach of us differs in the ways that we receive love. By learning to give love in the ways that our partner can best receive it, and by asking our partner to give us love in the ways that we can receive it, we can create stronger relationships.

Learn more about each of the love languages

Want to find out which love languages you speak (or speak to you)?

Love language 1: Words Of Affirmation

Ask yourself, how do you feel when you hear your partner offer encouraging, positive, and affirming words, and compliments?Examples:
Your partner congratulates you, tells you "great job!", tells you that you look attractive, or thanks you for something?If these things make you feel the most loved and happy, words of affirmation may be your primary love language.

Love language 2: Acts Of Service

Ask yourself, how do you feel when your partner helps you with tasks that reduce your burden or ease your
stress?Examples:
Your partner does a chore for you, runs an errand for you, or takes care of something without having to be asked?If these things make you feel the most loved and happier, acts of service may be your primary love language.

Love language 3: Receiving Gifts

Ask yourself, how do you feel when your partner gets you thoughtful or extravagant gifts?Examples:
You get a gift or a small treat from your partner that tells you he/she was thinking about you.If these things make you feel the most loved and happy, receiving gifts may be your primary love language.

Love language 4: Quality Time

Ask yourself, how do you feel when your partner gives you their undivided
attention
and you engage in meaningful conversation or activities?Examples:
You and your partner have a date night, go on a trip together, or have a deep conversation?If these things make you feel the most loved and happy, quality time may be your primary love language.

Love language 5: Physical Touch

Ask yourself, how do you feel when your partner shows you affection through touch?Examples:
You and your partner hold hands, kiss, hug, or sit/lay close together.If these things make you feel the most loved and happy, physical touch may be your primary love language.

How to use love languages in your relationship

If we want to build healthy relationships, we have to work at it. We have to tell our partner what makes us feel loved and we need to show our partner love in the ways that they want to receive it. That's how we can use love languages to improve the quality of our relationships.